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Chantalle,
I have decided to write to you because I can express myself more freely and you can hear my words without the need for defending your own. I want to start by saying that how you treated me the on Sunday was hurtful and ironically insensitive considering that I have received a lecture from you for not being mindful of your feelings. I truly believe that you are a good person and that your capacity for good things far outweighs your occasional tendency for ignorance, arrogance and malice. You just treat me like shit sometimes, just as I do to you. I don’t have anything to hide yet I feel inadequate and inferior to the way that I use to look a couple of years ago and that is why you perceive my behaviour as being insecure and having a problem. It is not right however to be aggressive with what you want and insult when you don’t get your way. Then on top of all that compare your self image with mine. How would you like it if every time you wear makeup I tell you that I never wear it and ask you why you’re so insecure about your skin? One thing I can thank you for is forcing me to turn my eyes back upon my own denied insecurity of my body image. It is truly helping me to be extra vigilant in my effort to become healthier even if it is a painful reminder.

Another issue that I’ve got to deal with is your decision to sleep in the living room because of my snoring. First, I’m working on ways to solve the problem, you are not. You are side-stepping it and alienating me in the process. What guy wants to be able to say that he and his girl don’t even sleep in the same bed anymore…? I’ll save you the trouble, and me the indignity of sleeping in my girlfriend’s bed alone by just getting the hell out every time until I figure out a solution. Its not like you even want to do anything with me these days anyway… ever since you have gone through some recent religious reflection I KNOW that you feel guilty about sleeping with me, even though you did for years. I sense it and it truly hurts me, but at the same time I’m aware that its part of principles that you live by so I can not challenge it. I just have to feel bad every time i want to be intimate with you. I don’t really know how I’m gonna deal with this but I’ll figure that out in time.

Its true that familiarity breeds contempt, and I feel this is the reason that we have been fighting with each other a lot lately. I also feel that when you are on your period, you become extremely confrontational and difficult to deal with. You even admit that you are afraid of being bitchy to people. I’ve been keeping track and I find that most of our biggest fights happen when you’re on your period, therefore I think its best that I limit the amount of time that I spend around during this time to avoid problems. As for time in our time in general, I would still like to come and see you on weekends as I still love doing, but otherwise I think that we should limit the rest of the week for a bit. I think that we will both appreciate each more when we spend a little less time around one another. I feel that I’m in your space too much and that might be the reason you snap at me sometimes. For the same reason, I say dumb things and I don’t realize that I’m not respecting you the way I should.

Chantalle I love you and it ruins my whole day when I haven’t resolved things with you. These are the issues that I should have brought up with you the last time I was there but my pride doesn’t always let me be so straight forward. I’m realistic and know that we won’t always see eye to eye but if we could avoid the big fights then I feel that we will have made some real progress.
Love,
Jay

I Truly want to change and I feel like he has some legitimate points. My boyfriend works at the bank but he also models for tip-top tailors as a part time job. Everyone thinks he is good looking but i can’t figure out why he took my question " what is your waist size?" as offensive. About the feeling guilty sleeping with him, I felt guilty just once after attending a religious lecture. I’m cool to sleep with him now. Anyway please tell me how you would respond if you were in my position. Thanks a lot!

wow i think he wrote that letter very well in terms of grammar and at least he is honest and i think you two should sit talk and talk about it in person and try to resolve the issue

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