I am not sure what to do about my boyfriend’s dog…. we have been seeing each other for 3 months….?
and he has a 2 year old english bulldog. He lives in a condo in the city so this dog is inside all of the time. Her hair is EVERYWHERE! She snores, she can’t breath, she’s constantly hacking up something, she drools, and she doesn’t stop licking and she smells horrible. She’s the epitome of gross to me. When we are out or on trips with out her, we have the best time together… i really think that he could be the one for me, but i hate this dog. And i know he loves her so much and i have TRIED to like her, but i just can’t. I didn’t grow up with animals, and have never been a pet owner. My roommate has a dog that I love though and so does my best friend. i don’t know what it is about this one that i hate… I need advice on how i can change my attitude towards this dog b/c i know if it came down to a choice, im out for sure. I just got really pissed last night b/c i was trying to sleep, she was snoring and he ends up taking her out on the couch to sleep with her over me! It made me so mad…. that’s great, my boyfriend would rather sleep with his nasty dog than sleep with me. i know i am bitter, but i am sick of being jealous of my boyfriends dog! Help!
Delta Girl,
Greetings! I believe that jealousy is the worst of all emotions. Your basic problem is not the dog. It is jealousy itself. Please, you must get over this. Jealousy will destroy you and every relationship you have. Look at your past I’m right, aren’t I. Please get some counseling for this. You will reap the benefits throughout the rest of your life.
Ali
This is one of those "accept it, change it, or leave it" situations. You already tried to accept it, and you know you can’t change it. So that leaves one alternative.
Best of luck.
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You’re being pretty ridiculous. She makes noise, sheds, and drools. Holy shit, she must be a dog.
Also, he was trying to be nice by taking her to the couch. She wouldn’t have stayed there if he didn’t stay, and you were bothered by the snoring.
Clean his apartment if it’s really bothering you. He’s not going to get rid of her though, so either learn to live with her or leave.
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You are not compatible.Find yourself a new boyfriend.Maybe one who will marry you before sleeping with you.
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Time to grow up hunny. You’re jealous of a DOG! If you don’t like it, suck it up and tell him.
I’m of the opinion if you can’t love his dog, you can’t love him..
I don’t think I’d blame him for taking the dog over you…
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Get over yourself!
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You ever hear the expression "It’s Me or the Dog"? Don’t make him choose. It’s his dog — he loves it.
If you’re really concerned, talk to him about your concerns and what bothers you the most. However, this *is* a bulldog – they snore, they have breathing problems. That’s the way it is.
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set boundaries for your bf’s dog.
let him know that she cannot sleep in the same room with you guys.
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Unfortunately, English Bulldogs, snort, drool and snore and smell. As for the hair problem- He should bathe her more and get a vacuum for pet hair. And she needs to get out and get exercise.
In this situation, the dog seems to be his "priority" as far as relationships go. The dog was there before you, and will most likely still be after you. So this is a situation where it’s you or the dog, and I’ll guess that it’ll be you that has to go. Sorry to be so blunt, but if he sleeps with the dog over you, no mater how great he is. That’s probably one of the main things that makes you not like this dog. This particular breed is not one for everyone either.
This will come down to a choice, so you might as well choose to not compete with a dog!
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He and the dog are a package deal, hon. If you honestly can’t bring yourself to like the dog, it’s time to move on.
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Just like you hear on tv. If a girl has a dog, and she gets with a guy, they guy has to love her dog also, same applies to females. Try bonding with the dog to grow a better relationship. If the dog stinks BATH HER. if shes hacking stuff up HELP HER. If you just cant do it, then leave. Theres no reason you need to be in a relationship with a guy and his bestfriend if u cant stand this dog. good luck to ya.
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It’s a dog. Before you came along he had formed a bond with it, he loves it. He probably slept on the couch with it because you went off about something totally unnecessary. Wouldn’t you be mad if you had a pet you loved, or something valuable to you in your life, and he tried to make you get rid of it, change it, or was always going off about it? You certainly wouldn’t want to hear about it would you?
Unfortunately, once again, he had the dog way before you. Going off about it all the time is just annoying. If you can’t deal with a dogs temperament and the way it acts he ‘isn’t the one for you’, you just need to find someone who dislikes living with animals as much as you do. Simple. Because it wouldn’t be fare to try and make him get rid of the dog.
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maybe you should try to spend some one on one quality time with just you and the dog. i know it sounds weird but you may find something you like about the dog. bulldogs are not the coolest breed. they are gross i give you that. maybe too you should tell your boyfriend that it would be fun to take the dog to training classes where you both can work with the dog. the dog will then learn to respect your space and any issues you have with the dog you can work on together. get him interested in wanting to make his dog one that everyone will love. get him to train it to do cool tricks something. just get him interested on wanting to train it cuz then you can work on the dog having to be crate trained, stay off the bed, give you your space. things like that. almost all dog trainers will help you on convincing him this is what needs to be done so the dog doesn’t develop any behavioral issues. try that. and if it doesn’t work, and your boyfriend is too stubborn then walk away. you tried, he didn’t its HIS LOSS. good luck.
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well, unfortunately, the dog was there before you.
how about hinting to the BF that if he gives the dog a bath, you’ll help vacuum, or vice versa?
my BF has two HUGE (140+ lbs) junkyard dogs. they drool like hooch, they’ve got thick fur that sheds and is dark colored, and they stretch out on the floor so you have to step over them. (i have APBT’s.) when we moved in together, i told him that if he bought me a bagless vacuum cleaner, and he washed the walls EVERY WEEK, that i would vacuum, and everything would be fine.
and we lived happily ever after.
if you really like this guy, you have to come to some kind of compromise.
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You do know what it is about her you don’t like – she was there before you, she takes attention away from you and she will be there after you because you know he’d choose her if you pushed it.
Get over yourself she’s a dog. Either suck it up and make it work or break it off now and let him find someone who DOES like his dog.
In all honesty it sounds like you really do NOT want to like her otherwise you would have just cleaned the hair up yourself since it only bothers YOU and made suggestions about grooming to deal with the doggy smell.
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Well unfortunately those are traits of a bull dog being heavy breathers and some breeds drool more than others and most do shed. It’s a hard choice you love your boyfriend but not the dog. I won’t like I’m not a fan of bull dogs either but I’ve grown up with animals. I just got a cat after not living with a pet for a couple years and even I’m like all this cat hair! I love the person who invented the lint rollers.
You realize the situation, you either need to come to terms with the dog (invest in ear plugs for the snoring). If you love your boyfriend enough you will make do with his dog which he loves as well. You need a happy place I would say. It may help talking to him but come from a place where you’re as unbiased as you can be (easier said than done) so he doesn’t get defensive.
He probably knows you’re not the biggest fan of the dog but just say this is what I need to cope with the dog (ie because of shedding the dog stays away from your clothes or isn’t allowed on the bed or certain furniture. You know the situation you know what ne wants/needs you know what you need/want. The situation is what you’re going to be able to deal with and what he’s going to be able to deal with. It’s going to be something you figure out yourself but also that I think needs to be communicated to him as well.
Good luck!
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Ask my husband, there’s plenty of times I sleep with my 71 pound snoring pittie on the couch instead of with him.
There’s nothing you can do about the snoring or drooling. As far as the hair…he needs to clean better. As far as her smelling…it could be a medical problem and/or poor nutrition. I would take her to the vet to make sure there’s nothing wrong with her. Then make sure she’s on a high quality kibble.
http://www.dogfoodanalysis.com/dog_food_reviews/
make sure you get at food that has no wheat or corn, they’re terrible for the skin and coat.
Either bath her your self or take her to get groomed. She should be bathed about once a month and brushed often
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"Love me, love my dog"
Leave him now and find someone that doesn’t own a dog for you to be jealous of. He’s not the one.
PS: You’re a sad little person for being jealous of and hating a dog – simply for being/acting like a dog. I recommend evaluating yourself and your attitude. I bet your friends’ dogs that you liked were "cute little maltipoopshipeking’s" right? SMH
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Delta Girl,
Greetings! I believe that jealousy is the worst of all emotions. Your basic problem is not the dog. It is jealousy itself. Please, you must get over this. Jealousy will destroy you and every relationship you have. Look at your past I’m right, aren’t I. Please get some counseling for this. You will reap the benefits throughout the rest of your life.
Ali
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